Broaching The Topic Of Sexuality With Your Child

Four tips that will help pave the way for better parent-child conversations.

Conversations on sexuality with your kid can be as awkward as these lamps. (credit: Michael Prewett, taken from 

It faces every parent of pre-teens and teens – how in the world does one find out their:

  • struggles with pornography?
  • sexual orientation?
  • dating preferences?
  • sexual activity?

We all know how it goes with nosey parenting: it just doesn’t work.
Here’re some tips for you to consider:

Tip #1: Never make it your end goal

As the popular adage goes: people do not care how much you know before they know how much you care.

Anxiety-based parenting is often a prying one. If we do not like others being nosey about our private lives, so do your kids.

Anxiety-based parenting is often a prying one. If we do not like others being nosey about our private lives, so do your kids.

Jesus says, “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” (Luke 6:31, NIV)

“But it’s because I care for them!” We hear you but, really – don’t. It doesn’t communicate love.
If you have not learnt about your child’s love language , that’s a great place to start. Prioritise showing genuine care for him/her according to the appropriate love language(s).

Remember: our guilt and shame in parenting can often drive our need for information from them.

Tip #2: Build a family culture of verbal affirmation

Eileen, a Cru Singapore staff who has been counseling youths and young adults for the past 10 years said, “Second-generation Christian youths who struggle with same-sex attraction have often found it difficult to talk to their parents about it.”

“They may see their issue as a burden to their parents and struggle with feelings such as guilt and helplessness.”

“Youths need to feel secure and assured of their parents’ love before they share their emotional journey with them.”

“Verbal expression of care is very important, especially in the context of Asian families.”

Positive affirmation is vital for your parent-child relationship.


Before you pluck up the courage to talk about sex and sexuality, be bold and lavish with using both spoken and written words to encourage your preteen or teen.

Tip #3: Go on a one-on-one trip together

Are you a parent who already has a track record of making time for your child?

If so, you can broach the topic of sexuality by inviting your son or daughter to go on a weekend getaway with you – just to hang out, have fun and talk.

Ps Mah Yeow Beng, a pastor at Bartley Christian Church invited each of his three sons to embark on a one-on-one trip to Malaysia with him. Using Passport2Purity® (P2P) and Passport2Identity® (P2I) , he could openly talk about topics of sexuality, peer pressure, life purpose in a relaxed environment using a guided framework.

“My dad was upfront about the nature of the trip. I knew what I was getting myself into when I said, ‘yes’,” shared David, 22, Ps Mah’s second son.

Ps Mah Yeow Beng with his son, David.


“I found the P2I material helpful for me as it reinforces values and convictions on how I want to lead my life – dating philosophy and choosing abstinence before marriage.”

One main highlight I was looking forward to in each of these trips was to hear my sons’ thoughts, and discuss any questions he has, on sexuality.

Ps Mah shared, “Honestly, one main highlight I was looking forward to in each of these trips was to hear my sons’ thoughts, and discuss any questions he has, on sexuality.”

“I was happy that we could talk about it openly. I could even share with him my own experience in handling sexual temptations.”

Ms Sarah Chua, a parenting specialist from Focus on the Family Singapore emphasised the importance of parent-child bonds in her letter to The Straits Times:

“A crucial foundation that allows children to share their concerns and questions about sexuality with their parents is a trusting and close relationship with them.”

Tip #4: Recognise that God is in control

Parenting is messy. Never make perfect-parenting your goal. Your preteen or teen is fully aware if they are chess pieces in your plan to be the perfect Christian parent.

Ps Tan Kay Kiong from Covenant Evangelical Free Church shares this in his book, Legacy Beyond Self ,

“As we keep vigilance over our children’s loves – the music that they hear, the movies they watch, the friends they mingle with, and the language they speak – it gives us a peek into their souls and helps us to understand the condition of their hearts.”

“On occasion, we may spot something that needs correcting – but here’s one thing: In order to inspire change, the encouragement of love is required, not the edict of fear.”

As we adopt a posture of surrender as parents, it does not make it any easier to see our children bear the consequences of their decisions. However, it demonstrates who God is to our children which will eventually light the way for them to know Him personally .


In Cru Singapore’s ministry with youths , young adults and families , what has always struck us is the long-term effect parenting has on our ministry disciples’. The family is indeed the key arena of discipleship for the youths and young adults.

Discipling children beyond Christian habits and practices are vital. Both the demands and stakes of parenting are high. We are humbly reminded that apart from a life with Jesus , we can do nothing (John 15:5).

Even though failures and mistakes are a given in parenting, you can take heart that with God and in community, you are not alone.

Let’s start some great conversations with your preteen or teen today.

Why It Pays to Be Absolute about Truth

Even when everyone else is absolutely sure it doesn’t exist

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The idea of absolute truth has fallen on hard times. Claiming something is really true is not only unpopular, it is often considered foolish, arrogant, and even immoral. In such a hostile climate, many Christians are hesitant to pay the cultural price for clinging to the concept of absolute truth.

Why, then, would anyone still want to promote and defend such a notion? Much more can be said, but we will explore just four basic ideas that demonstrate why it pays significant dividends to uphold the idea of absolute truth.

1. It is philosophically congruent

First and foremost, when properly understood, the concept of truth possesses the character of being absolute. If something is genuinely true, it cannot simultaneously also be false or impossible. One of the great fallacies of our age is the self-refuting claim that there is no absolute truth. Is that absolutely true? If so, it self-destructs. It cannot be absolutely true that there is no absolute truth.

2. It provides assurance and security

When something is absolutely true, it is true whether or not anyone believes or is aware of it. Real truth is not subject to the whims of power, opinion, or the latest fad or fancy. It is reliable and has an enduring quality that transcends time and space, giving assurance and security in the midst of changing times and circumstances.

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3. Might does not become a right

On the other hand, when people abandon a commitment to absolute truth, they are far more likely to be taken in by whatever suits their fancy — even ideas and practices that end up being dangerous and damaging to personal and societal flourishing. In addition, the powerful are far more likely to actively promote and enforce their version of reality, especially when they are personally benefitted.
When people abandon a commitment to absolute truth, they are far more likely to be taken in by whatever suits their fancy
Without a concept of absolute truth, there can be no appeal to an external and reliable source of evaluation and accountability. It becomes power play against power play rather than a spirited exchange of ideas and the reasons for adhering to or rejecting them. Might becomes right, a source of oppression and greed.

4. It encourages genuine and fruitful exchange of ideas

This problem of oppressive power-plays leads to a key reason why it pays to be absolute about truth: it engenders the genuine and fruitful exchange of ideas. There is a critical need in our time for candid moral and intellectual debate. Contrary to the mantras of some, not all perspectives — religious or otherwise — are created equal. Some ideas, by their very nature, are worthy of rejection, not because they are culturally and politically unpopular, but because they do not stand up to the test of moral and intellectual scrutiny.

The bald exercise of power is a poor substitute for thoughtful and respectful discussion and debate over the things that matter most. But when concepts of truth are relegated to the category of “alternative facts,” and moral standards have been deemed “personal preferences,” there is little room for reasoned disagreement and genuine learning.

Conclusion: A bigot or not a bigot? – That is the question

No matter how loudly and adamantly postmodernists insist all truth is relative and not absolute, all normal people still maintain — justified or not — that what they believe is actually true. The problem is not in believing some things being true or false. What’s wrong is condemning a certain class of people for believing something solely because they believe differently than you.

As Greg Koukl (The Story of Reality, 24) puts it:

“Since everyone — religious person, atheist scientists, skeptic—believes his beliefs are true, it has always struck me as odd when some have been faulted simply for thinking their views correct. They’ve been labeled intolerant or bigoted for doing so. But what is the alternative? The person objecting thinks his own views correct as well, which is why he’s objecting. Both parties in the conversation think they’re right and the other wrong. Why, then, is only the religious person (usually) branded a bigot for doing so?”

Of course, the real question all of these raises is, how? How do we determine whether something is true, false, possible or impossible, likely or unlikely? I suggest we start a conversation about this and see where the truth might lead. I think that we will ultimately find that it absolutely pays to be absolute about truth.

There’ll Be Spring

Crystal sings about overcoming Spasmodic Dysphonia and hopelessness.

As a child, the earliest memories of Dad were of him singing. He sang everywhere, and all the time. His singing was joyfully infectious; singing to himself and to my family was part of everyday life.

That was how I grew up. Just like Dad, I shared my feelings and joy with others through songs. I wrote them, I sang them. It was not about performing or being artsy; singing was me being me.

Everything changed in 2011.

My voice started to have involuntary breaks and there was a persistent strain. The general practitioner thought it was throat inflammation. Months later, my condition did not improve and the specialist I consulted was still unsure of its cause. It took even more months of frustrating tests with a top specialist before a diagnosis was given. I had developed Spasmodic Dysphonia (SD).

SD is not the common sore throat; it is a neurological disorder that causes the part of my brain that controls speech to go amok. I could neither sing fluidly nor talk without having a strangled tone. My loved ones could not understand me amidst my uncontrolled vocal spasms.

I was devastated. I was robbed of singing, robbed of joy, and robbed of life. This is only a nightmare, I told myself, I will wake up one day and all will be fine. But days rolled into months, and all was not fine. As my condition worsened, I shunned social gatherings and avoided people altogether. Any hope of the restoration of my voice eroded, and depression set in.

God seemed so distant, deaf to my cries, nonchalant to my sufferings.“God! Why aren’t You healing me? Don’t You heal? The Bible is so full of promises for healing. Why am I not healed?” Doubts and fears seared through my mind in every waking moment. God seemed so distant, deaf to my cries, nonchalant to my sufferings. In my depression, a close friend encouraged me to trust in God. She reminded me that singing was God’s gift to me and He would surely heal me. She even challenged me to write a song to perform at her wedding. I could not believe that my condition would improve, much less be able to sing! Although I was baffled by her insistent faith, I was also moved by it, and I decided to try.

The wedding day came. Up on the stage with a face downcast, my spasms and stuttering persisted. Hopeless. Before I could slip away, the audience came up to share about how touched they were to see me holding onto hope. In tears, they came forward to hug me, leaving me speechless.

That was my turning point and God spoke.

“Sing! O barren one.”

This phrase from the Bible kept ringing in my head through the night. God was telling me to sing in my hopelessness! I did not have to worry about how well I sang because God is my hope, my reason to sing, and my REASON TO LIVE. He will replace my emptiness with His love.

As this realisation dawned upon me, I started to sing about my hope in God despite my condition. I began to see that although disrupted by SD, my voice was given by Him to speak to people in broken communities who are rejected by family and society. There are many who are thirsting for the same hope, something that only God can give!

My miserable wintry life finally melted away into a hopeful spring. As I shared with people about the promises that God has for them, the song There’ll Be Spring was birthed. By 2012, I fully recovered from depression.

I lost my voice, but I gained hope.Today, my voice has been restored by about 70% and the stuttering is now barely perceivable. Through this journey of SD, I see God’s miraculous hand in changing my life and impacting others, and I do believe that He will heal me completely one day. Looking back, I lost my voice, but I gained hope. If experiencing SD was the only way for this to happen, I would still choose this path.

Do you think there can be hope even in distress?

Reason to Live

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If you have not thought about the purpose of your existence on planet Earth, here are some true stories of people who struggled with life challenges, overcame trials and emerged strong in the midst of despair and hopelessness.

We hope these stories will become a source of inspiration to your quest for your purpose in life.

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A New Reason to Live

Our Daily Lives Are Shaped By Our Beliefs.

While some may be more evident than others, we are all guided by what we believe. Of these, the most important is our belief about God. Everyone has one, and we make sense of and live our lives according to what we believe about Him.

What do Christians believe about God and life? It is our belief that Christianity offers the most satisfying #reasontolive. Find out more and choose for yourself!

Nature of God: Biblical Monotheism

Nature Of God - Biblical Monotheism

God is Personal

It is possible to know God personally. He has revealed Himself to us through Jesus Christ and the Bible. God is our creator, powerful, infinite, just, holy, all-knowing, and good. God is love. And He wants to have a personal relationship with us.


“Now this is eternal life: that they know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent.” — John 17:3


Meaning and Purpose of Life: Live for God

Meaning and Purpose of Life - Live for GodGod is Better Than Everything Else

Just as hunger is evidence of the existence of food, our desire for a full and meaningful life is evidence of something which can ultimately satisfy. God wants us to enjoy and experience His love. He gives us a new reason to live!


“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”—Matthew 11:28



Human Nature: Broken

We Are Spiritually DeadHuman Nature- Broken

We think and do things that hurt others and ourselves. We offend God. Yet we do all these anyway. In this broken, sinful state, we are separated from God and therefore live without His peace, joy, and love in this life and after death.


“For the wages of sin is death.” (spiritual separation from God)—Romans 6:23


Jesus is: Creator & Saviour

Jesus Is - Creator & SaviourHe is the Source of Spiritual Life

Although existing as God, Jesus Christ became a man on earth and lived a perfect human life. He died on the cross for humankind, paying the death penalty we owe because of our sin. But He rose again three days later, and His resurrection gives life to those who receive Him as Lord and Saviour of their lives.


“Jesus answered, ‘I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.’”—John 14:6


Source of Spiritual Truth: Sacred Writings

Source Of Spiritual Truth- Sacred WritingsSpiritual Truth Is Found In The Bible

God has revealed His message of hope to us through prophecies and eyewitness accounts in the Bible.


“…he was pierced for our rebellion, crushed for our sins. He was beaten so we could be whole…We have left God’s paths to follow our own. Yet the Lord laid on him the sins of us all.”—Isaiah 53:5,6 (See also 2 Peter 1:20–21)



From Beliefs to Experience: Faith

We Must Choose to Trust God

Faith is believing in the unseen, not the unreasonable. It is trusting Jesus Christ, believing who He is and what He has done to give us life. It is letting go of our broken efforts to gain a good life on earth and for eternity through good actions or achievements. One way of expressing faith is by talking to God.


“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast.”—Ephesians 2:8–­9

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Dying To Really Live

This time round, there would be no party.

The two sisters were distraught and anxious. Their only brother had suddenly died. The autopsy was not out yet but there were murmurs that he had it coming with his fairly lavish lifestyle. The trio was well known in town to host some of the best parties. Celebrities and who’s who of the business world were a regular part of the circuit. Even a politician or two had been spotted before.

Brother is dead. What took you so long?The sisters checked their phones endlessly for a reply. Three days went by. Finally, on the fourth day, Jesus walked slowly onto the sprawling grounds of their estate. The older sister rushed out to greet Him, nearly knocking Him over as everything within her tumbled forth:

Brother is dead.

What took you so long?

Surely it wouldn’t have happened had you intervened earlier?

Questions we are familiar with. Something has gone wrong. We have just lost our job, been ditched by the girl of our dreams, been told that one parent has been diagnosed with a terminal disease, or been accused of something we wouldn’t think of doing… We pound the doors of heaven for answers, or insist that God never really existed. Even if He did, He doesn’t really care. Don’t our circumstances prove the point? We were not protected, bad things have happened to a good person; even a religious one.

Very plainly, Jesus told her, “Your brother will rise again.”

Martha thought that Jesus was just trying to comfort her. After all, the idea was so outrageous; her brother rising again? Very plainly, Jesus told her, “Your brother will rise again.” So she immediately linked it to some intellectual theological theory about him rising at the end of time*. So Jesus had to repeat Himself. “Do you really know Me? Do you believe I can do this?” Martha did not answer Him directly but repeated her faith confession: You are the Son of God who has come into the world.

Just like us. We demand from God but fail to hear. We are so afraid of our hopes being dashed; so we give the standard and vague answer. There is no precision to our belief.

What Jesus had just said was startling. He told Martha in five words what He planned to do, but she could not hear it.

In our griefs, we are often jumbled up. We go back and forth in the arid plains of our soul in search for answers and come up with nothing much to sustain us. Often, we just keep plodding. Sometimes, the days become a blur.

  • Teens are known to go through the motions of school, then cut themselves to stem the pain.
  • Men are known to dress up and leave the flat in the morning, pretending to still be going to work.
  • Widows are known to obsess over the belongings of a beloved, unable to let them go.

Maybe at such times, Jesus has a direct, clear word for us.

  • You are not to blame for your parents’ divorce.
  • It’s time to work for what you really care about.
  • There is still love to be known and shared.

If only we can hear it.

Martha ran off to get her sister.

En route, Jesus saw the folks who had come for the mourning. Mary arrived weeping. She too asked why He did not intervene and prevent the death.

Moved by their loss, perhaps with the memories of their friendship flooding back, and troubled by the reality of death, Jesus wept.

To truly live, we must weep.

Skinned knees.

Disappointing grade.

Affection unrequited.

Dream in embers.

Life near its end.

Sometimes we weep openly. More often, we weep privately, away from everyone, as we struggle to find a reason to live. Those tears we shed in secret; too afraid or ashamed to let others see? He sees those tears and joins us. Will we accept His compassion, His company?

Finally, they were asked to do something they had rather not: to open the lid of Lazarus’ coffin, and to risk breaking all the religious and social rules of the day. It wouldn’t look or smell pleasant.

One does not expose a dead body. We do not flaunt our dirty linen as they say. We keep our failures private and secret, hidden and covered.

But Jesus calls us to bring it to the open before Him.

At every moment that counts, we need to stake our faith on something. Jesus asks for our hearts. Yes, the confused, angry, shaken hearts. And He asks that we act unafraid of conventions and everything that may hold us back from saying ‘yes’ to Him.
The four-day dead brother comes to life.
And then, it happened. The four-day dead brother comes to life.

Jesus says that He can raise things to life. He can interrupt death. He can work wonders in the way-too-late situations of our lives. Will you believe?

From Hooligan to Accountant

Chun Seng’s* story of transformation.

I was born an asthmatic, and all too familiar with the incessant coughing, gasping for air, a flushed face, followed by more coughing. If you have ever seen someone suffering an asthmatic attack, it is literally like someone choking to death.

When I was 10 years old, I suffered a particularly serious asthmatic attack. The medication which normally would alleviate my symptoms did not work that day. To make matters worse, my dad started to beat me up and accused me of triggering the asthma attack by having cold drinks. With no one to turn to, I remembered the God that my Christian aunt often talked about. In desperation, I cried out, “Jesus, if You’re real, heal me and I will believe in You.”

That instance on, I was healed of my asthma.

After I was healed, I felt I was given a new lease of life! I started enjoying outdoor activities and made new friends through the Boys’ Brigade. I even got my very first Bible! Though I did not understand many Bible phrases like “abounding grace” and “God is good”, I accepted them with childlike innocence.

However, things did not remain rosy. At 14, plagued by family woes, I had to work part-time at my uncle’s duck rice stall. The taxing demands of work and study left me no choice but to quit the Boys’ Brigade. This went on for many years, causing me to grow apart from most of my good friends. God’s miraculous healing of my asthma became a thing of the past, and gradually, I took it to be a coincidence.

“No money, no honey, sure not happy.”I began to admire my uncle’s prosperity. He was an uneducated man, and yet with a booming business of five duck rice stalls, he could afford a Mercedes Benz! On the other hand, I was getting an education, but had to slog long hours for him and could only buy a pair of Armani jeans after many months of saving. In fact, my first girlfriend dumped me because I was poor. I realised,  “No money, no honey, sure not happy.”

I wanted money and I wanted it fast. I thought I could buy happiness and vowed that I would never be despised again for being poor. Not satisfied with working long hours, I resorted to quicker means to earn money. This led me to bad company who introduced many vices and addictions to me. Smoking, gambling and drinking became my daily lifestyle with my newfound “buddies.” Gang fights were common and would erupt because of senseless staring incidences or lustful courtships. I tried to fill my emptiness with pornography, casual sex, and booze, but these did not work. The sense of loneliness would hit me even more when I woke up to yet another faceless pretty girl beside me after a night of mad clubbing. These “highs” could not satisfy me. Something inside me was crying out, “Is this all there is to life?”

In despair, I wished I could end my life… but I lacked the courage.

During another one of those empty nights, my listless eyes settled on a dusty book on my shelf. It was the Bible from my days with the Boys’ Brigade. I picked it up, read a passage aloud and somehow felt compelled to pray. My girlfriend, who was in bed, saw me on my knees and thought I was insane. But I simply said, “God, if You’re real and You want me back, then You have to give me a proper job… and maybe, a few Christian friends too, ok?”

Shortly after that prayer, I went for my first job interview and God gave me the job! Me, a hooligan “Ah Beng”, now a marketing executive?! However, such a job was neither glamorous nor did it guarantee easy cash. It was a demanding job which required me to sell website designs and I was given a three-month probation period to secure a contract. With a miserly $18 per day to cover my food and transport (and cigarettes), it was a tough life. After months of combing industrial estates and retailers, and making countless cold calls, I still had no success. My concerned marketing senior asked, “Chun Seng, your three-month probation period is almost up. Are you worried?”

Me, a hooligan “Ah Beng”, now a marketing executive?!
With a smoldering cigarette in my mouth, I replied, “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.”

My senior’s jaw literally dropped. He just heard me quote a verse from the Bible! Curiously, he asked if I believed in God. I told him that I was “technically a Christian” because I believed in the Christian God. But I knew that I was not being the person God wants me to be.

It turned out that my senior is a Christian and he invited me to a Christian group gathering. For the first time in a long while, I was surrounded by so many Christian friends. What was memorable was a quote shared by the group leader from the movie Braveheart that goes, “Every man dies. Not every man really lives.” I had not truly lived!

After years of pursuing the gods of money, status, and materialism, I was only led to depression. I became a slave to money and had no love or respect for people. I had turned my back on Jesus and wanted to live life my way. However, God did not turn His back on me. He heard and answered my prayers for healing, helped me leave my hooligan lifestyle, gave me a job and friends too! I am grateful to God for transforming me into a new person, for giving me this new life and for being my REASON TO LIVE.

*Not his real name

The True Treasure of Life

Philip Ng shares how Jesus Christ has brought true meaning to his life.

Some may know me as a property developer, but I am really a servant of the most high God whom I know through my Lord Jesus Christ. Property development is for me, just a way of making a living. Before I came to faith in God, I had always wanted to know Him, perhaps in an intellectual way. I did not realise that knowing God involved a relationship. So I searched, as there was something missing in me.

“Believe so that you may understand and not understand so that you may believe.”In 2000, I attended the Alpha Course to find out more about Christianity, and that was where I got to know Jesus. Coming to faith was a struggle until one of my friends in the Alpha Course told me, “Believe so that you may understand and not understand so that you may believe.” I dwelled on that and I believed. I knew then that life only had meaning in God and through God.

As I read the Bible, to me, the most stirring, piercing statement that Jesus made is in John 14:6: “I am the way and the truth and the life.” This life is not just about the after-life, but our earthly one. When we come to see Jesus and accept Him as our Lord and Saviour, our life begins anew. We have a new life and we are renewed as people. It is for me also a journey of transformation.

Fourteen years into this journey, I have learned much from Jesus. Let me make reference to this wonderful truth in Matthew 6:20-24:

“But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also… No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money.”

In this world, we trade in the currency of money. But the currency in the kingdom of God is love.These are stirring words. I am in business and business is about money. But money and possessions can possess us. How then do I serve God as a business person? The way to do this is to realise that I am a steward; God has entrusted money to me to be managed responsibly. At the end of the day, we take nothing with us. As a steward, I do not, therefore, have to contend with building treasures on earth, where moth and rust do destroy. As a businessman, I also have to guard against covetousness. If you have much, you will worry because you do not know what can happen; markets can go awry, property and stocks and share prices can change suddenly. So you see the wisdom of Jesus telling us to store our treasures in heaven.

In this world, we trade in the currency of money. But the currency in the kingdom of God is love. How do we make that conversion from the currency of money to that of love? Jesus will teach us how. Guided by Jesus’ teaching, I tell my people in the organisation that we want to do good business and do good in business. This is my call to them. My values in life and business are informed by my Christian faith, but we welcome and certainly include those from other faiths. We hope that our message of love can truly find a place in their hearts.

I count myself so blessed to have had this journey of transformation. I know this transformation must always start with oneself in Christ; the old self must die with the Lord and be resurrected as new. I have aspirations to serve God and share His message of truth. It now behoves me to be a light for my family and my organisation.

What is the difference between the time that I did not know Christ and now? Situations are the same, in a sense; there continues to be turmoil in the world. We continue to be faced with problems and are vulnerable to temptations. What has changed is that there is only one certainty now: my certainty of hope in our Lord Jesus Christ – without whom life would have no meaning.

Edited excerpts reproduced with permission from Diocesan Digest,
Issue No 262 – November 2014. ©The Diocese of Singapore.

Channels, not storehouses

Giving is an expression of our worship to God and a privilege we have as believers to participate in the Lord’s work. Scriptures are replete with examples of generous giving: we have the story of the widow giving out of her poverty (Mark 12), businesswoman Lydia extending hospitality out of her wealth (Acts 16), the widow giving her last meal to Elijah despite her trepidation (1 Kings 17), and Mary anointing Jesus with a costly jar of ointment out of devotion to her Master (Mark 14).

We also have negative examples of those who hoarded: Ananias and Sapphira (Acts 5), Elisha’s servant Gehazi who became greedy (2 Kings 5), and the rich fool who built storehouses for his own enjoyment (Luke 12).

What matters in our giving is not the amount, but our attitude. We give out of a grateful heart for all that God has blessed us with, and we give in faith as God leads us to give sacrificially. When we give to the Lord, we trust that He will provide for our needs, multiply our offering and use it for His glory.

God desires that we become channels of His blessings and not mere storehouses. God releases His abundant resources through His people and the church. As channels, our giving becomes an extension of God’s grace to those in need. Those who receive are also enabled to fulfil God’s calling and mission. On the other hand, we become storehouses when we hoard God’s resources for our own enjoyment or out of worry that our needs will not be met.

A generous heart does not reflect our economic or social standing; it reflects our desire to bless the Lord and His work through what He has given us. We give because we want to, and not because we have to. With right attitudes, our giving in faith will fill both the giver and the recipient with praise and thanksgiving to God (2 Corinthians 9:12-14). The wise man writes in Proverbs 11:24 (NLT):

“Give freely and become more wealthy; be stingy and lose everything.”

The storehouse of all good things belongs to God (James 1:17). From that infinite source of blessing, He will replenish all that we sow, whether material or spiritual, so that we become channels of His blessings.

In this festive season, would you be a channel of God’s blessings by partnering with us to Win-Build-Train-Send multiplying disciples for the Kingdom?

My prayer for all of us in 2016 —

“May the favor of the Lord our God rest upon us; and establish the work of our hands for us.”

Psalm 90:17


Lam Kok Hiang
Country Leader

Photograph by Bert Heymans